There is hardly anything about motherhood that has not been said or written before ...
and yet , its all NEW for a first-time mom-to-be.
So I will still say the same things , but in a way I have felt it ...
First time around , when you know you are expecting you have a whole bundle of emotions welling up inside you - happiness , excitement , worry , fear, anxiety , curiosity and on and on ...
Everyday seems different , your body acts weird , your mind plays tricks , your emotions go out of control. But you take it in your stride , attributing it to the new life growing inside you.
For some lucky women , 9 months is a breeze with not much to remember and for others, it is living hell - nausea, vomiting , backache, leg cramps, high BP, over-weight/under-weight ... and there could be a whole lot of other complications too. Then again, you endure, because you are determined to bring this new life to the world - this baby , YOUR BABY !
If pregnancy was an ordeal , post-delivery is another challenge to face. Feeding, cleaning, bathing take up your whole day and night. Before you realise what you have been doing, your baby has turned 3 months. In the short breaks you get when your baby is asleep, you tend to think if this is all there is to life , but let me tell you ... no, there's more coming , lots and lots more. To see whats next, you will have to bear this 'boring' phase of tending and caring.
You will actually start to enjoy motherhood when the baby starts responding to you, when it starts to differentiate between Mom and Others , when it smiles at the sight of your face.
And then there are the milestones - first crawl, first step, first word, first song, first dance ... a first for everything and each step to be celebrated and remembered :)
Sending the kid to creche or playschool or school for the first time is as new to you as it is to him/her. You will also feel the pangs of separation , you will also cry out of helplessness.
But you will grow up and learn to accept change , to accept your child's growth. Your kid is not as dependent on you today as it was yesterday ... but that will soon be okay with you.
I have celebrated 4 birthdays of my first son , but the novelty of motherhood has not worn off; because each day is different , even now. One moment he is all-wise and the next, he is just sweet and innocent. With the second one soon to come, there is a sense of newness again, a fresh feeling.
Now I think I know why women crave for motherhood - I think its a chance God gives us to be reborn, to reinvent ourselves, to see the world through a child's eyes and most important, to see ourselves in an entirely different way , to stretch our limits , to endure, to be patient , to teach and to learn.
and yet , its all NEW for a first-time mom-to-be.
So I will still say the same things , but in a way I have felt it ...
First time around , when you know you are expecting you have a whole bundle of emotions welling up inside you - happiness , excitement , worry , fear, anxiety , curiosity and on and on ...
Everyday seems different , your body acts weird , your mind plays tricks , your emotions go out of control. But you take it in your stride , attributing it to the new life growing inside you.
For some lucky women , 9 months is a breeze with not much to remember and for others, it is living hell - nausea, vomiting , backache, leg cramps, high BP, over-weight/under-weight ... and there could be a whole lot of other complications too. Then again, you endure, because you are determined to bring this new life to the world - this baby , YOUR BABY !
If pregnancy was an ordeal , post-delivery is another challenge to face. Feeding, cleaning, bathing take up your whole day and night. Before you realise what you have been doing, your baby has turned 3 months. In the short breaks you get when your baby is asleep, you tend to think if this is all there is to life , but let me tell you ... no, there's more coming , lots and lots more. To see whats next, you will have to bear this 'boring' phase of tending and caring.
You will actually start to enjoy motherhood when the baby starts responding to you, when it starts to differentiate between Mom and Others , when it smiles at the sight of your face.
And then there are the milestones - first crawl, first step, first word, first song, first dance ... a first for everything and each step to be celebrated and remembered :)
Sending the kid to creche or playschool or school for the first time is as new to you as it is to him/her. You will also feel the pangs of separation , you will also cry out of helplessness.
But you will grow up and learn to accept change , to accept your child's growth. Your kid is not as dependent on you today as it was yesterday ... but that will soon be okay with you.
I have celebrated 4 birthdays of my first son , but the novelty of motherhood has not worn off; because each day is different , even now. One moment he is all-wise and the next, he is just sweet and innocent. With the second one soon to come, there is a sense of newness again, a fresh feeling.
Now I think I know why women crave for motherhood - I think its a chance God gives us to be reborn, to reinvent ourselves, to see the world through a child's eyes and most important, to see ourselves in an entirely different way , to stretch our limits , to endure, to be patient , to teach and to learn.
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